Abuse Checklist

Physical Violence
___Slap, punch, grab, kick, choke, push, restrain, pull hair, pinch, bite
___Abuse of furniture, home furnishings, pets, destroying her possessions
___Intimidation (standing in the doorway during arguments, angry or threatening
     gestures, use of size to intimidate, standing over, out shouting, reckless driving                         
___Unwanted touching
___Threats (verbal or nonverbal, direct or indirect)
___Harassment (uninvited visits or calls, following  around, checking up on,
     embarrassing in public, not leaving when asked)
___Isolation (preventing or making it hard to see/talk to friends, relatives,
     others)       
___Other (please list)

Psychological and Economic Abuses
___Yelling, swearing, being lewd, raising voice, using angry expressions or gestures                                   
___Criticism (name-calling, swearing, mocking, put-downs, ridicule, accusations,
     blaming, trivializing words or gestures)
___Pressure tactics (rushing to make decisions, using guilt/accusations, sulking,
     threatening to withhold financial support and manipulating children.)
___Interrupting, changing topics, not listening, not responding, twisting words,
     topic stringing
___Economic coercion (withholding money, the car, or other resources; sabotaging 
     attempts to work)
___Claiming "the truth" being the authority, defining behavior, using "logic"
___Lying, withholding information, infidelity
___Using pornography (e.g. magazines, movies, strip shows, home videos, etc.)
___Withholding help on childcare/housework; not doing share or following through
     on agreements)
___Other forms of manipulation (please list)